| Opening
song, greetings |
Rabbi |
. |
| Hinei
Matov & other opening songs |
. |
. |
| Elohi
Neshama |
. |
p.
63 (Siddur Sim Shalom) |
| Brachot
Hashachar |
. |
p.
65 |
| Presentation
of the Tallit |
Parents |
. |
| Talilt
blessing |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
. |
| Shehecheyanu |
Rabbi
& Bar Mitzvah |
. |
| Chatzi
Kaddish |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
106 |
| Bar'chu |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
107 |
| Sh'ma/v'Ahavta |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
112 |
| Mi
Chamocha |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
114 |
| v'Shamru |
Rabbi
& Bar Mitzvah |
|
| Tzur
Yisrael |
Rabbi
& Bar Mitzvah |
p.
114 |
| Amida |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
115a |
| Kedusha |
.
|
p.
116 |
| Oseh
Shalom |
.
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| Ark
Opening |
2
guests |
.
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| Prayers
before taking out the Torah |
Rabbi
& Congregation |
p.
139 |
| Torah
passing, generation to generation |
Rabbi
& Bar Mitzvah Family |
. |
| Ki
Mitzion (Torah
Service) |
Rabbi
& Bar Mitzvah |
. |
| Sh'ma
(Torah
Service) |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
141 |
| Echad
Elohainu (Torah
Service) |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
. |
| Walking
with Torah around the congregation |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah & Rabbi |
. |
| . |
. |
. |
| Aliyah
#1 Blessing (before
& after blessings) |
2
Jewish guests |
We
need all of these Hebrew names, which includes your Hebrew name
and your father's Hebrew name.
(ie. Asher ben (son of) Shlomo or
Rachel bat (daughter of) Shlomo) |
| Aliyah
#2 Blessing (before
& after blessings) |
2
Jewish guests |
| Aliyah
#3 Blessing (before
& after blessings) |
2
Jewish guests |
| Aliyah
#4 Blessing (before
& after blessings) |
Bar/Bat
Mitzvah Parents |
| Maftir
(inc. before
& after blessings) |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
| . |
. |
. |
| Lifting
and dressing the Torah |
2
guests (must be Jewish) |
. |
| Parents'
speech |
. |
. |
| Haftarah
(inc. before & after blessings) |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
. |
| Speech |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
. |
| Rabbi
speaks to Bar Mitzvah |
Rabbi |
. |
| Presentation
of gift and certificate |
Temple
Board Member |
. |
| Open/Close
Ark |
2
guests |
. |
| Etz
Chaim-return Torah to ark prayers |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah & Rabbi |
p.
154 |
| Aleinu |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah |
p.
183 |
| Kaddish |
Rabbi |
p.
184 |
| Closing
Prayer: Adon Olam |
. |
p.
187 |
| Kiddush |
Bar/Bat
Mitvah & Rabbi |
. |
|
Question:
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What
is a Bar Mitzvah?
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Answer:
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A
Bar or bat mitzvah literally means “a son or daughter
of the commandment”. Under Jewish law, children are encouraged
but not obligated until they reach the age of 13 (age 12 for
girls) to observe the commandments. You become a bar mitzvah
/ bat mitzvah automatically at these ages whether you have
a special ceremony and party or not. Becoming a bar mitzvah
/ bat mitzvah means you are now obliged to study Judaism’s
practices, and obey its laws. The bar/bat mitzvah will read
from the Torah and help lead the Saturday morning service.
Other family members will also participate in the service.
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Question:
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Do
I have to wear a kippah? (head covering)
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Answer:
|
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It
is worn as a gesture of respect to God in the temple. It is
required for men and boys (both Jewish and non-Jewish) but
optional for women and girls.
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|
Question:
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Do
Non-Jews have to do everything the congregants do during the
service?
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Answer:
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Non-Jews,
out of respect, should stand when the congregation stands.
Other than that, they need only listen and, if they wish,
participate during responsive readings that have general themes
like peace.
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|
Question:
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How
long does the Saturday torah service last?
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Answer:
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The
service usually lasts approximately two hours. It is understood
that this is a long time for some people to sit. If needed,
it is okay to go out of the sanctuary to stretch or use the
restroom.
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|
Question:
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What
is the appropriate dress in the synagogue?
|
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Answer:
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Business
casual to dressy. No shorts. Preferably no jeans. Modest attire.
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|
Question:
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Can
we video tape the service?
|
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Answer:
|
|
No
more than one stationary video camera may be set up at the
back of the sanctuary and turned on, then left alone.
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Question:
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Can
we take pictures during the service?
|
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Answer:
|
|
No.
Photography is not allowed on Shabbat at the temple. Please
speak to the Religious chair for information regarding the
appropriate time to take family photographs.
|
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|
Question:
|
|
Can
we mic the bar mitzvah for the video?
|
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Answer:
|
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No.
The bar mitzvah will speak into the mic on the bimah, which
should easily be picked up on the video.
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|
Question:
|
|
Can
we have the bar mitzvah service at another location?
|
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Answer:
|
|
No.
The Saturday morning service when your child is called to
the bimah as a bar/bat mitzvah is the Or Emet weekly Shabbat
torah service, which is open to all Or Emet congregants and
the community. If our congregation was larger, there could
easily be two or three bar/bat mitzvahs called to the bimah
that morning to recognize and celebrate their having become
a bar/bat mitzvah. Holding this Or Emet service off site would
turn it into a private event, where our congregants and community
would not feel welcomed.
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|
Question:
|
|
Can
we have the bar mitzvah service in the afternoon? |
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Answer:
|
|
No.
The Saturday morning service when your child is called to the
bimah as a bar/bat mitzvah is the Or Emet weekly Shabbat torah
service, which is open to all Or Emet congregants and the community,
and Or Emet does not typically have a Saturday afternoon (mincha)
service. To schedule a service in the afternoon specifically
for the purpose of accommodating bar mitzvah plans, would turn
the service into a private event. Furthermore, the primary focus
of the bar mitzvah service is the reading of the Haftorah, which
is not read in the afternoon. Some reform temples offer the
bar mitzvah service in the afternoon, but Or Emet (though unaffiliated)
is not a reform synagogue.
There are special exceptions to this policy. Please speak with
the Religious chair if you think you have a special situation. |
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Question:
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Can
we throw candy during the service?
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Answer:
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No.
Throwing candy at the bar mitzvah after he has read from the
torah is typically a Sephardic tradition. We do not allow
candy throwing because the bar mitzvah may get hit in eye,
the kids may use this as an opportunity to throw things at
the Rabbi, and no one wants to clean up the candies that are
smushed into the floor.
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